When you remove the driver knee bolster cover, you will see a black box with 3 plugs (00-02 models), directly underneath the steering column. This is the BCM (body control module), where you can catch most of your wires, such as lights, individual door, liftgate, and hood triggers, etc.
Each fuel injector will have a plug with two wires. One wire will be the same color on all injectors. The different colored wire will be the one you want to splice into for your tach signal. You can use any one of the injectors. Its important to solder all your connections if possible, especially the tach signal.
You need to splice into the second ignition wire for the remote start. Depending on the alarm system, you may or may not need to use a relay. This wires needs to be energized while running or it will throw a SES light.